I feel..’ Versus ‘You did…’
Give Feedback That Does Not Come Across as Personal Attack
By: Madison Colberg
Feedback, constructive criticism, advice, recommendations- these are all various terms to describe one thing- which is to be better.
Some people may not like to hear the opinions of others, good or bad. However, it is a great characteristic that will improve your life in multiple realms if you can listen to others or give constructive input.
Now let’s be honest, no one likes getting told they should do something better. It’s human nature to want to always be at your best. Although this is true, it is people who take advice full heartedly and learn from it, that grow the most.
When it comes to recommendations or advice, it is often not the words said, but the manner in which we are told that we do not like.
Seeing, hearing and feeling are real emotions. These establish an emotional connection between the person giving feedback and the other party receiving the advise. Individual emotions show vulnerability and come from a place of sincerity, not of attack.
Therefore, next time you are giving or receiving feedback, helping a friend or teaching your child a life lesson, remember, watch the manner in which to present it.
Let HCM Lifestyle know how this approach worked for you. Share your story on HCM Lifestyle ‘Inspiring you to be the best version of yourself.’ By giving feedback to help others to be the best version of themselves, in turn you are becoming a better version of yourself. At HCM Lifestyle we are here to share ‘Everyday stories from real people.’ We can each learn, grow and live together to be the best that we can be.